Hakuna Matata

     A phrase famous since the release of Disney's "The Lion King" (1994) is "Hakuna Matata." This translates, literally, to "There are no worries" from Swahili. We have little enough control on the events and circumstances of our own life, yet we try to influence the outcome to the best of our abilities. Sometimes, it's ok, it's good, to let go and move on.
     All relationships end one way or another. Death, distance, school changes, habits, occupations, and belief  all cost in relationship value. Whether this affects family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, or schoolmates - with change, some relationships will fade or end and others grow more robust and prominent.
     The most difficult relationship to sever is a relationship of the heart, even more so when you are not the one that wished that relationship to end. Your efforts failed in some way even if you strove with every ounce to retain the knot as the strings pulled farther away. The hardest part after losing that fight is moving on.

     After realizing it's the end and that no actions can change what happened, skipping the rest of the recovery steps can be good or bad (ask your local psychiatrist). I like to apply the example of "The Lion King" and put my past behind me. You can't change it, so move on and continue life. The "don't worry, be happy" mentality avoids the anger, hate, fear, and bitterness of a bad break up and allows you to forget about the pain a lot sooner, as exhibited by Simba with his father's death. This mentality should eventually lead to a process of forgiveness. Without this you cannot truly move on. Forgiveness is the ability to understand and use the knowledge painfully earned to improve yourself and aid others in their own pain.
     The most that can be added to that is that learning from past mistakes to avoid repetition is the true mark of matured experience and will eventually lead to wisdom if properly cultivated. "Forgive and forget" heals pain much faster than letter it simmer for years with constant fear of it boiling over into the rest of your life.
So, don't worry, be happy!


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Agatha Tyche