Some of the problems of nonphysical communication remain - whatever medium you use. Today, insincerity seems to be one of the largest problems. Common phrases like "Catch you later!" and "We should hang out some time," are meant to convey fondness and intention to the other person. Sadly, these intentions are rarely followed up. Historically, words held power. The ancient Egyptians held the written word was so sacred and magical, that during the New Kingdom, they buried a scroll of The Book of Going Forth by Day (Book of the Dead) to protect and aid the deceased on their journey. As with so much else in life, words seem pitifully poor substitutes for real meaning. Even the treasured “on my word,” or “I swear,” holds no value in today’s society.
Those catch phrases are never followed up
with the promise they hold. If someone does follow up on them, it’s a very
surprising feat coupled with the handicap of instant communication to everyone not with you at that time. Thus, while the letter of the promise was
fulfilled, its reward remained insubstantial.
Social networking is a terrific tool. As a
college student, I can keep apace with activities on campus throughout the
week, and during break and summer I can keep in contact with many of my
friends. It’s wonderful to stay in touch with those you aren’t able to
physically be with – thus the appeal of long distance communication
initially.
The part that hurts me, as a generally
amiable person, is when I reach out time and again to catch up with others only
to be ignored or get a brief response such as “fine,” or “good.” All my
energies seem wasted and unappreciated. I think, “Why bother? It wouldn’t have
mattered that I inquired about them or not.”
I
begin to give up on people and slide back into myself, but every so often, when
I remember someone’s birthday, ask how their sick mom is, how the test went,
or if a major project of the semester went well, he’ll smile, answer,
and thank me for remembering. My conclusion from these experiences is that
putting the extra effort out there is what means anything. Anyone that can type
can send an email to cheer someone up, but if you remember something about him specifically or go out of your way to physically say, "Hello," it provides that extra glue
of friendship.
People distance themselves from each other
extraordinarily well these days, but they are still human and appreciate and
cherish times when people take note and make them feel special for no other
reason than being alive. Their ability to distance themselves coerces them to
realize the extent of your energies in expressing sincerity.
In conclusion be friendly to all despite
cost or discomfort to youself. Make people smile, make them happy, and forget about
your selfish needs for once.
"Buck up, old chap,"
Is what I say,
When ruinous times come my way.
Smile, now, and try again -
Writing's just out with your in.
Stir it up, recall what's gone.
Turn this sorrow into song.
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Agatha Tyche
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